You might not ever know how much your simple act changed our lives, but I couldn't miss an opportunity to tell express my love and admiration for you.
See, my boys have experienced some bullying the last few years. Nothing huge, probably typical for teenage boys, but it is enough. We have had a discussions about why people treat one another poorly and what we can do to help not only ourselves, but the children being mean. Sometimes we react to a situation better than others, that is part of growing up and learning.
The other day my son came home from school and said, "Mom, I have to tell you something, but I don't want you to freak out." Perhaps not the best way to start a conversation because I immediately start to think of the worst case scenarios. He continued by relating that as he was walking down the hall and another boy was being unkind and even hitting him.
"Was it hard? Did you fight back? Did you tell a teacher?" I said in a bit of alarm.
"Just listen mom" He calmly replied.
"I was trying to keep my cool and not lash out. I was trying to ignore him when Ethan walked up." He then proceeded to tell me how you moved the boy away from my son and told him to knock it off. He said it took a couple of times before the bully backed down. You shrugged and smiled at my son's thanks as you walked back to your class.
You didn't have to stop. You didn't have to get involved. You could have just walked along like everyone else, but you didn't. You came to the defense of my son when it wasn't the cool thing to do. It might have seemed like something small, but for me it was huge.
"What are you going to do mom?" My son asked.
"Nothing. What Ethan did is more powerful than any intervention from me. I hope that some day you will come to the defense of someone." I replied.
Thank you Ethan.
Thank you for defending and respecting my son. Thank you for choosing to show kindness not only to him, but to the boy who was being unkind. Thank you for setting an example for our family, but to everyone that was watching you that day in the hall.
You made a difference and became a leader that day.
all my love,